The Rule Book
“We do not know it all”

We are still learning each and every one of us.

“We are able not disabled”

© Copyright J. Vescio 2009

You know how people around us say “Oh you are just a know it all” well that statement is not true.

We have pressures beyond our control in our work place, at home and all around us.  So, we cannot cope with the same old garbage in our environment everyday.  We all blame one another for our own wrong doing, we all blame the boss for our day being obnoxious and we all blame the whole world because it did not happen yesterday. We all make excuses to suit our own stories, we all create a mould around a situation, but we must remember we all have each other, and learn from each others experiences, and not criticize because we do not know it all, nobody does as we are still learning.

Some people feel guilty, honouree no focus, depression, and cannot be bothered syndrome. So some lock themselves into a bubble called their security and safety zones, then they create a world of their own.  Many do not want to come out of the bubble, because they do not like what they see on the outside and some cannot cope with day to day living it is all too hard. 

Everyone is not built the same in their stamina, their thoughts, words, and physical being.  Some are stronger than others but the strong should help the weak to grow.  Some are paranoid about their situations; some are too sick and weak to be involved.  But they do not know it all and this is where everyone should meet half way on all issues through sickness and health for better for worse, for richer or poorer, whether in a relationship, a marriage, or business or friendship. 

Each and every one of us have our different forte’s and creativity. 

We have a Lawyer who cannot protect his/her clients on every issue of ethical law matters.  We have our civil law, commercial law, music law, criminal law etc.  So, for that lawyer to assist with a criminal matter and he/she has not studied criminal law seeks another lawyer who has studied that field of law and has had the experience.  Because the other Lawyer did not know it all.

We have a Computer Technician.   As an example this technician knows how to build a computer but does not know about software programs.  So he/she seeks advice and assistance from the software technician, because that first technician did not know it all.

We have a singing teacher, who knows most about music, notes, chord progression, orchestrating, and playing an instrument? But when it came to writing a song with words, it became most difficult.  Because he/she did not know it all.

We have a Graphic Artist and web designer who knows many things about graphical art and web designing, but when it comes to a clients specific request and it cannot be created, then that person seeks assistance or experienced thoughts from another in the same line of work and WHY because they did not know it all. 

Management of a shop or business:

The manager cannot cope with the over load of work, and the sales figures are down.  It is the Manager the cops the blow from the top, not the one’s underneath, so that Manager needs to build a working relationship with his/her staff and set goals for each one.  If the one’s underneath are not led by the Management or team leaders then who are they going to follow.  Lead and others will follow and set good examples of your own presentations and not rely on others that are still learning the field.  If the Management cannot do it alone, then a requirement from somebody else that has had experience can be sort to guide that Management to improve the sales and capabilities from all… WHY because each person did not know it all.

Doctors GP’s write a referral to a specialist because they do not know it all

Security stations have different divisions of guards because they do not know it all.  They are taught their rules and guidelines to follow in their separate divisions, and when moving on they then are required to learn new rules….. Because they did not know it all.

Budgeting needs and finances:

Everyone feels they have the right to work out their budget and their financial needs, but does it balance at the end of the day.  Don’t allow yourself to be a know it all because you think it all, and allow somebody to show you the steps to balancing your accounts at the end of the day or week or month. Living beyond your means, over extending your budget is nobody else’s fault but your own; nobody forced you to give some money to that friend to help them pay for their needs. Focus and discipline yourself to become better at your budgeting and finances. Because you do not know it all.

Communication:

Communication is very important, especially when the chips are down as they say, by locking out the world then the alcohol starts the drugs and many dangerous points in life.  If one is feeling depressed find somebody to talk to about what is depressing you.  If you cannot find a job, seek help by somebody that has had the experience and they might be able to guide you through the loop holes to success.  Contradicting, making hidden agenda’s of the excuses we all have made in the past about many things, does not help you build confidence in yourself. But I am not a know it all, I have had the experience and many failures in life because I listened to the Know it alls.

Attention Seekers:

Sometimes when a child or adolescent wants attention they create an argument purposely, or they steal something of ours, or they mould negative thoughts into their family zoning.  The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are. Being the centre of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love. This is not knowing it all.

Do you Label yourself or other label you? Saying you are bad, or you are no good, well come on pick yourself right up and Label yourself as a Winner not a quitter, and God knows who you are, and that is all that matters.

Are you a drama queen: every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions? Everything is elevated to crisis proportions. Histrionics may be present where the person feels he/she is not the centre of attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be present

General notes:

Everyone thinks they know it all, but that is a false statement.  Nobody is perfect in this world and the whole world of population does not know it all.  If they did then nobody would be on this earth.

Nobody knows it all, we do not know it all, and we do not know everything at all.  We are all still learning about life in general, our work place, our jobs, our creativity, our singing, our hygiene, our health, and many other subjects.  Don’t take the cheats way out and start building your life in a bottle or taking drugs, because the heartache is not going to go away, you are just destroying yourself.  Now one will say how dare I say this about alcohol and drugs, but we are all abusers to ourselves in one way, some use excuses as escapism, some over eat when they are troubled, some people smoke a cigarette to try and calm down, some drink a ton of coffee to make it easier so we are all abusing our bodies our health and our wealth. 

Some lock themselves into the Internet 24/7 to get away from it all, and some lock themselves into books, games or movies to hide from it all.  BUT the bottom line is you cannot keep running away from it all, you need to FOCUS - FACE IT - AND BE HONEST TO YOURSELF.  If you cannot handle it on your own, then ASK SOMEBODY that has had experience at life in general, knows a little about the BIG WORLD of experiences in the BUSINESS field, or at what you are trying to achieve, and you never know they may come up with the answer you were looking for.  BUT, remember this anything we ask for comes in HIS TIME NOT OUR’S.

 A true friend does not have to be sitting next to you; they could be 24,000 miles away, chatting to you on the Internet, or talking on the phone.  But the next move is all yours, you can either say well this is garbage or read what is written by somebody that has experienced most of these steps, but your Mothers, Your fathers, Your friends, Your Associates and colleagues certainly are not KNOW IT ALLS.  

There is only one person in the world that DOES KNOW IT ALL

And most of you should know who that is.

GOD KNOWS IT ALL

J Vescio
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